Jump to content

Irregular cycles - When to test?


  • Please log in to reply
6 replies to this topic

#1 moineau

Posted 15 April 2019 - 12:21 PM

Currently sitting on CD29 and wondering to bother testing or not.

We have been TTC for a pretty much exactly a year (this is our 12th cycle)

I have been on the pill since by DD was born almost 8 years ago, prior to her my cycles were EXACTLY 28 days. Every time.


Since coming off the pill a year ago they have been all over the shop. My last 10 cycles have been:
34
29
28
28
26
27
34
23
27
24

My tracking App predicted AF to arrive on CD 25. So according to that I'm 4 days late, but knowing that I have had 34 day cycles has left me wondering wether to bother or not. In the past I have gone and bought tests, done it, BFN BAM period next day. I'm already struggling and don't feel overly hopeful and everytime I even think about going and buying a HPT its like I instantly start feeling crampy like maybe I'm about to get AF... Then it goes away (that's been happening for the last 3 days)

Thoughts? Stories? Experiences?

#2 IamOzgirl

Posted 15 April 2019 - 12:34 PM

Do you have any idea when you O?

#3 moineau

Posted 15 April 2019 - 12:39 PM

No real idea on when I ovulated.

We've been trying to take a slightly relaxed approach. I had EWCM at CD 13 AND again on CD 18, That has never been a consistent tell for me though, sometimes I get no EWCM

#4 molinero

Posted 15 April 2019 - 12:44 PM

My cycles have always waxed and waned liked yours OP, I was all over the place.

When TTC I took so many HPTs because I was convinced I must be 'late' when in reality it was just my cycle adjusting to a longer length.

With my last kiddo, I actually had the longest cycle I have ever had in my entire life. I felt for sure I must've been pregnant. But the tests kept coming back negative. I felt angry and confused that my body would play tricks on me like that. Luckily fell the following month when I was relatively symptom-less.

If I were you, the rational part of my brain would be telling me to wait until CD34. But there's a good chance I would test anyway out of impulsiveness...

#5 IamOzgirl

Posted 15 April 2019 - 12:56 PM

I hear you on the 'trying the relaxed approach'. Unfortunately that doesn't help with the irregular cycles. the 'right' time to test is tied to Ovulation. And it would be great to understand if your O is just as all over the shop as your cycle length.

would you consider temping? just to confirm O date?

That way you are not doing it to stress about timing sex. its just a confirmation tool.

And on the relaxed approach, i wouldn't even stress about the exact temp time (lots of people stress about that!) but just enter it into your app and let it do the rest!

With out an O date your app is just having its best guess at your cycle length.

sorry if i have not helped at all...

#6 MooGuru

Posted 15 April 2019 - 01:16 PM

I had similar to you varying between 23 days and 37 from memory. For my own mental health I never tested before the longest of the cycles and tried not too assume pregnancy until that point and testing. I had a friend who tested compulsively from a week v before due and her experience really influenced me not to want to do that for myself but I get everyone is different.

#7 moineau

Posted 15 April 2019 - 01:16 PM

I have been thinking about tracking for a while, my DH and I discussed OPKs but every time I go to order/buy them I get overwhelmed by the idea of sex being a chore. I was given a referral for an ultrasound to be done around CD 14 to see if I'm even ovulating but I can't seem to bring myself to book it in.

The idea of "tracking and timing" makes my DH really anxious as well. He quite enjoys blissful ignorance. (HA HA) and I'm scared that if I track, then I will feel alone in the TTC thing.

OMG. I am a walking barrel of contradictions. I was so hoping that things would just happen and I would feel like it was just meant to happen. Tracking and taking things to the next level makes me feel like maybe we aren't meant to have a baby. (We both have one DD each from our previous marriages)

GGGAAAHHHH



I was thinking of waiting until CD 34... Thats the longest cycle that I have had so far so surely AF will have come by then or at least it will be more likely to be an accurate result.


0 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users

 

'My parenting style is Survivalist'

A helicopter or tiger mum, I am not.

8 mums reveal their favourite nappy bags

We asked a bunch of mums which nappy bags they love the most.

Why you shouldn't bother throwing a big first birthday party

If you're feeling the pressure to host an all-out, over-the-top shindig for your baby's birthday, I hereby grant you permission to throw the rules out the window.

The 24 baby names on the verge of extinction this year

If you're on the hunt for the perfect baby name and don't want a chart-topper like Oliver or Olivia, then do we have the list for you.

'My mum doesn't seem that interested in my baby'

Q: My mother and I have always been close, but now that I have a baby, she has not helped out as much as I thought she would.

New guidelines: "Bottle-feeding mums need support too"

Breast is best, but mums who can't, or choose not to breastfeed need support too.

Dads also struggle to 'have it all', study finds

Men and women both experience work-family conflict.

Language development may start in the womb

Study found babies can recognise foreign languages before birth.

Meet the baby born from an embryo frozen for 24 years

Experts say little Emma is a record breaking baby.

 
Advertisement
 
Advertisement
 
 
 

From our network

Five things you need to know about flu and pregnancy

As the 2017 flu season begins in earnest, here?s what you need to know to protect yourself and baby.

Mum tips to keep your pre-baby budget in check

Money might be funny in a rich man's world (or so ABBA told us), but for the rest of us it's a major consideration – particularly before having a baby.

5 easy ways to make your maternity leave last longer

Maternity leave is a special time for you, your partner and your new little bundle. The last thing you want is for financial worries to stand in the way of that joy.

10 ways to keep your 'buying for baby' costs down

Becoming a parent is full of surprises – not least of all finding out that, for such small beings, babies cause a lot of chaos and expense.

5 ways to prepare to go from two incomes to one

Here are some ideas for getting that budget in shape, ready for being a one income family.

 

Baby Names

Need some ideas?

See what names are trending this year.

 
Advertisement
 
 
Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.